Keeping a Lasting Relationship

The norm in any relationship is that beauty can't sustain a relationship but your character and understanding sure do. Ever wondered why some of your relationship don't last? You have tried the outward beauty but d relationship keeps hitting d rocks and you are tired of it. Why not try looking into your inner beauty; your character and see what will happen. We keep blaming the other person in the relationship for the problem we encounter. Have you carefully evaluated that? Or you are just covering up your flaws. These are some relationship killers you must avoid.

 Nagging

Saying the same thing over and over again will get you no where. You might be thinking that if you do, they will listen and probably hear you out. That is a wrong assumption most people make in relationships. it only springs up anger and bitterness in the other person. If you want their attention why not take d easy approach when they are calm and happy or in a good mood and see how much progress you will make.

 Curiosity and Suspicion

Getting too curious and suspicious in a relationship breaks the bond you claim you share. People don't like it when u go all detective on them in any relationship. When you suspect anything, ask nicely. If the  answer you get is an indirect answer, don't push further or go spying on them. Nobody gets comfortable when someone spies on them. It breaks the trust in the relationship. Don't let your curiosity get the best of your relationship. Try to overlook some minor somethings in your relationship. Making your partner know in a soft tone that something is bothering you in the relationship during your play time won't hurt also.

Past  Hurt and Wrong Doings

Keep away from words like; "I still remember the last time", "that's what you did the other day". These words breaks  trust u r trying to build. It will only opens up wounds that are not good for a healthy relationship. In such situation anything the other partner does will never be good enough. They start feeling insufficient and insecure. Try letting go of the past and never bring them up even if u still remember keep them to yourself. Once you say you have forgiven, forget every memory of the person hurting you. I know it isn't easy but it will be worth it in the long while.  Doing so,you are saving and building your relationship with trust. Make every effort to trust again.

 Lack of understanding

Sustaining a relationship requires a lot of hard work, commitment and dedication from both parties but the most important thing is understanding. Seek first to understand, then be understood. Things don't just happen, they happen with a reason. If you can invest time in understanding the person you are in relationship with, it will save you from lots of argument later. When you understand, you get to have a picture of how your partner responds to situation. When an event occurs,you tend to say "its you" or " that's who you are". When u have such understanding about each other, the bond between you and your partner start growing.

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