5 Causes of Emotional Hurt and How To Overcome It

When people say their heart is full of stone, it means their heart has been so hurt that they don't want to get hurt any longer. The human heart can't be healed like the human body. It takes God, forgiveness and personal effort to heal the human heart. God did not promise us that we will not get hurt. What God promises is that he will be with us during the time we get hurt. Life hurts, your mom, dad, family, friends have hurt you and you too have hurt people too. The older you grow the more you hurt you will become. These are 5 causes of emotional hurt and now to overcome it.

1. Abuse

Abuse can come from any means. It can be from parents, family,  friends,  ex lover. Abuse makes you create a wall around your heart to prevent other people from hurting you. What you must see is that the protective wall serves two purposes: It prevents further hurt and it also pushes away people who want to help you. It takes a forgiving heart, being patient and determination to heal the heart of someone who has been abused because being abused, especially during childhood days, lowers self esteem. Indulging in habits like consumption of excessive alcohol, taking hard drugs, prostitution or womanising so say the least won't let the memory go away. What you are doing is only a temporary relief and taking a temporary relief will result to more hurt.

The first step in overcoming this cause of hurt is understanding that you were hurt because of the weakness of someone else and then realising what you have lost during the time of your grieve and what you will still loose if you continue working this mindset. Your future and happiness is not defined by your past. Life is too short to grieve throughout it. What has happened has happened. Your heart have been hurt but its left for you pick the pieces back together.

2. Rejection

Being rejected causes emotional hurt and leads to segregation. It makes you isolate yourself, not wanting to associate with other people. It makes you to be afraid of yourself because it empowers your fear by bringing flash backs of how you have been rejected in time past and how you felt when you were rejected. Rejection makes it difficult to love someone because you don't want to loose your guard. You don't want a repetition of your past experience. This makes you a slave to the fear of being rejected.

In order to overcome the emotional hurt caused by rejection, you have to let go of the past. Holding on to the past is living in the past. Protecting yourself is good but you are doing it in the wrong way. The best way to protect yourself is to surround yourself with people who love you. If you are in a relationship with someone who is still experiencing emotional hurt caused by past rejection, all you have to do is to show love. Make the person see that love exists.

3. Unanswerd prayers

When you pray and you don't see result, you can be emotionally hurt. Don't get worked up and make yourself feel insignificant because of your unanswered prayers. Don't kill your belief and make yourself rebel against what you stood for.

Everything happens for a reason. Trials come to make us stronger. Progress is most often disguised as obstacles. Don't loose hope. Don't loose faith because the problem appears greater than what you can handle. God will never make you pass through challenges greater than your ability. Be patient your dawn is in the horizon.

4. Failure

When you have tried so hard and you do not succeed hurts emotionally. Failure creates a sense of uselessness in the mind. It creates negativity and makes you care less. It results to you not believing in one's ability due to the hurt caused by having no results to show for your efforts.

The only way to overcome emotional hurt caused by failure is to succeed. Failure is a step in the journey to success. You can't pull down a building with a single punch. You have to reinforce yourself and then try again.

5. Disbelief

When you do your best to make someone believe you and they don't, it hurts emotionally. It hurts when you explain yourself to someone and the person isn't convinced with what you have said. Disbelief makes you not to explain yourself or give reasons for future actions.

You will never be able to please everyone. Not everybody will ever understand you. Work for a cause not for applause, live your life to express yourself not to impress, don't strive to make your presence noticed just make your absence felt. Be yourself, no photocopy is worth more than the original. Make honesty and integrity be the foundation of all your relationships because there can't be disbelief when there is honesty and integrity.

After Thoughts

Overcoming emotional hurt is ninety percent completed if you believe you can do it. Your determination takes the other part. Share your success story of overcoming and emotional hurt and if you are still experiencing such, feel free to contact us, we will like to help you out.