5 Untold Secrets To Keeping A Successful Relationship

Most time when problems develop in a relationship, people go about searching for solutions in wrong places. They fail to see that the cause of the problem is as a result of them missing out on the basics of keeping a relationship. These are 5 untold secrets to keeping a successful relationship.

Accept the uniqueness of your partner

Your partner isn't you and you are not your partner. You are very different from your partner. There is already enough difference between a boy and a girl. Most times people compare themselves to their partner while neglecting their differences and their background. They blame them for the problems they are experiencing in the relationship.

You don't expect your partner to like everything you like; only a programmed robot can do that, neither do you expect your partner to always know what you are thinking of; only if your partner has a mystical power, then that's permitted. Learn to accept the uniqueness of your partner, appreciate his/her strengths and weakness. Don't focus on his/her weaknesses; work together to nullify his/her weaknesses. Love is about complementing strengths and weaknesses not backbiting and insulting your partner due to his/her weaknesses.

 

Be a mesh -Develop the "us" approach

Mesh are objects which coordinate in such a way that all parts work together. An example of a mesh is a system of gears in which the movement of one gear results in the movement of the entire system. Being a mesh in a relationship involves you developing an habit which I call the "us approach" to events in your relationship which involves creative cooperation; making decisions based on you and your partner's agreement without compromising yourselves. Being a mesh is about team work, synergy, making decisions for mutual benefit, and being considerate. Trust is built based on your integrity and commitment to bringing about unselfish solutions and dedication to being a mesh.

Forgive his/her short comings

To err is human, to forgive is divine. As humans we will always make mistakes but it's not making the mistakes that really matters but choosing to grow from it. There is no perfect relationship in case I just let you down, let me repeat it again: THERE IS NO PERFECT RELATIONSHIP. Your partner is human so he/she will surely make mistakes and likewise you yourself will do the same. Focusing and emphasizing on the shortcomings of your partner is like adding sand to a freshly prepared meal. Sounds awkward right? Am I saying you should always ignore the mistakes of your partner? No am not. What am saying is that you should forgive their mistakes, accept their apology and then work together to prevent the mistake from reoccurring (Read 4 Ways To Increase Your Experience of Happiness).

Appreciate his/her effort in the relationship

Humans thrive in an environment in which they are appreciated. We thrive in an environment where our efforts are valued. Appreciation brings out the best in any individual. Appreciating your partner in your relationship show how much you value your partner and also serves as a source of encouragement to your partner. Appreciating little efforts like preparing dinner, a ride to work, booking tickets to see a movie; as little as the may seem, fuels your partner desire to do more.

Keep private activities about your partner to yourself

A fast way to reduce the trust in your relationship is to go about sharing information about the  activities in your relationship without your partner's consent. It breaks already developed bond in your relationship and reduces the the confidence your partner has in confiding in you (Read 5 Signs it is time to Quit that Relationship).

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